Celebrating Mom: A Tribute to Strength, Traditions, and Unspoken Love, मेरी माँ: संघर्ष, परंपरा और अनकहे प्यार की एक अनूठी कहानी

Looking back, I feel deeply blessed to have a mother like her.

She has always been a wonderful woman—kind, helpful, and an unwavering pillar of strength during every crisis. After my father’s passing, she stood by me even more closely, guiding the family with grace.She is considerate, opinionated, strong, and open-hearted. 

Mom when she was 21 years of age

Over the years, she has grown into an incredible woman. When I was a child, she was just a young girl herself—and as the village elders used to say, exceptionally beautiful. I believe she truly grew into her own strength with time.She was only 13 when she got married and just 18 when she had me. Looking back, I know I must have been difficult to manage as a child, but she was always a great mother...

A Need-Based Gift: Preserving Comfort and Tradition

This Mother’s Day, I wanted to give my mom something she genuinely needed—a gift that combined utility, love, and tradition.

In her older age, her earlobe holes had become quite enlarged, making it uncomfortable to wear regular earrings. In traditional Haryanvi culture, it was a custom to pierce a girl’s ears at a very early age and gradually stretch the earlobe holes. This was done so that by the time of her marriage, she could wear heavy traditional earrings known as Bujli (which were about 4-gauge in thickness, roughly the circumference of a crayon pencil).

हरियाणा की संस्कृति और बुजुर्गों की सादगी, इस पारंपरिक आभूषण में झलकती है।

The traditional process to enlarge the earlobes was unique and required immense patience:

Materials Used: Peacock feather stems, tamarind powder, mustard oil, and water.

The Method:

o    Silver or gold rings were worn immediately after piercing. Mustard oil and tamarind powder were regularly applied to soothe and heal the skin.

o    Once healed, a thin stick carved from a peacock feather stem was inserted into the lobe. The stick was made incredibly thin by rubbing it between the palms with water.

o    After inserting the stick, water was sprayed onto the earlobes. As the feather stem absorbed the water, it gradually swelled, gently expanding the hole.

o    This routine was repeated two to three times a day. Over time, more feather sticks were added gradually until the earlobes were wide enough to comfortably accommodate the large Bujlies.

Because of these historically enlarged earlobe holes, wearing normal earrings had become difficult for her in her later years. So for Mother’s Day, I gifted her a set of traditional Ear-chains (Kaunoti).

When I gave her the set, her face lit up with pure happiness. It was a beautiful moment of preserving a traditional memory while providing her with something truly practical.

 

हरियाणवी सांस्कृतिक विरासत: बड़ी बुजली को सहारा देती खूबसूरत कनौतीं....i gave this set to my mamma!and she was very happy!

Unspoken Emotions and Unconditional Love

I love my mom deeply, even if I don’t say it often enough. Expression doesn’t come easily in our family. We aren’t big on hugging—it feels a bit awkward for us. My sisters hug, but for me, hugging family members has always felt uncomfortable.

People often describe me as strong and brave, with a somewhat tough exterior rather than a soft nature. My friends don’t even find it strange anymore when I express affection by grabbing their arm or holding their hand instead of hugging. But with family, the anxiety takes over—it’s just not how we grew up expressing love, and that’s okay. Love doesn't always need words or physical gestures to be real.

Happy Mother’s Day to my wonderful mom, and to all the amazing mothers and friends reading this! You are all deeply loved.

Happy Mother's Day to my wonderful mom! And all of my wonderful friends! I love all of you very much! So there!!!!!!!!!

समय बीत जाता है और इंसान चले जाते हैं, लेकिन माँ की दी हुई सीख, उनकी स्मृतियाँ और यह प्यारी यादें हमेशा हमारे साथ जीवंत रहती हैं। भले ही हम बोलकर कभी अपनी भावनाएँ पूरी तरह से जाहिर न कर पाए हों, लेकिन दिल के किसी कोने में माँ का स्थान हमेशा सबसे ऊपर रहेगा। यह लेख सिर्फ एक उपहार की कहानी नहीं, बल्कि माँ के प्रति अनकहे प्रेम और हमारी सांस्कृतिक जड़ों को सहेजने का एक छोटा सा प्रयास है।

Happy Mothers day!